Today one year ago my first doula baby was born. A day full of excitement, joy and magical moments. Because nature is balance, this was also a day full of insecurity, pain and despair. Within the mother, father but also in me.
I am 1 year old today. I have become a doula exactly one year ago.
During this first birth time didn't exist, neither did other people around us and we totally forgot about the challenges we face in day to day life. Birth on itself makes life simple, or rather: essential. These hours of labour, of welcoming new life to the earth are timeless. Your child asks all of your focus and dedication. There is simply no space within you to wonder off.
Next to this total experience of 'living in the NOW' birth brings something else: Balance.
When you listen to nature, which means you listen to your body and to the signs within you, balance will accur. Because nature simply doesn't do out of balance. It is everywhere. In order to feel joy you must have felt despair and in order to feel frightened you must have had the experience of what it is to feel trust within. And yes, nature will give all of this to you during labour. For you to recognise as tools to grow. Into motherhood, into you.
When I am attending a birth I experience life in its full glory. Pure focus on the now, being okay with whatever emotional wave comes by. Or not being okay when it comes by. IT IS SIMPLY WHAT IT IS.
So today, on my birthday, I want to give myself a present. A present taught by the magical moments of birth, by the essence of nature.
I am.. and that is all I need to be.
'Geboortewerker met grote passie voor de kracht van vrouwen, water en schrijven.'